Relationship and Embodied Intimacy Coaching
If desire has faded, sex has turned into a source of stress, or you and your partner keep getting stuck in the same place, you don’t have to keep guessing at what’s wrong. I coach women, men, and couples to understand what’s getting in the way and to build the kind of intimacy they want now.
Everyone comes in with something different. These are some of the changes my clients come to me wanting:
I work with individuals and couples, and I welcome people of every gender, orientation, and relationship structure.
Maybe you love your partner and still don’t feel much when they reach for you. Maybe you’ve spent so many years taking care of everyone else that you’re not sure what you want anymore. Coaching can help you feel at home in your body and let yourself want things again.
A lot of men grew up learning to perform and provide and to keep their feelings to themselves. If sex has started to feel like a test you could fail, or you’re not sure how to get close to someone, coaching can help you relax, get out of your head, and feel more comfortable being seen.
You care about each other, but lately you feel more like roommates, or you keep having the same argument about sex. We’ll look at what each of you wants and find a way of being intimate that works for both of you.
The Bold Intimacy Method™
I guide my clients with the Bold Intimacy Method™, which I created. BOLD stands for Body, Openness, Loving Presence, and Desire, four abilities that deep intimacy relies on. You don’t master them once and move on. They keep growing over a lifetime, and we work with whichever ones you need most right now.
What am I experiencing?
Feeling at home in your body and trusting what it tells you, including pleasure, emotion, and your own yes and no.
Can I let myself know and be known?
Being honest with yourself, letting your partner see what’s true for you, and hearing them even when it’s hard to hear.
Can I meet what’s here with love?
Treating yourself and others with care and respect without giving yourself up, including being able to say no kindly.
What do I want, and what do I want to create?
Knowing what you want, letting yourself want it, asking for it, and going after the intimacy and the life you’d love to have.
Most of the intimacy struggles I see come back to one or more of these four. When we work on them, people usually find it easier to feel close.
We meet online by Zoom, so you can work with me from wherever you live. We start with what’s going on for you now and move at a pace that feels manageable. Along with the Bold Intimacy Method™, I draw on somatic practice, consent education, breathwork, and hypnotic coaching.
I offer coaching packages for individuals and for couples. Everyone starts with a free Desire Discovery Call so we can both decide whether working together is a good fit.
I’m a pharmacist, a somatic sexologist, and a relationship and embodied intimacy coach. Because I’m a pharmacist, I can help you sort out how medications, hormones, and health conditions may be affecting your desire. In my experience they’re usually only part of the picture. Stress, old messages about sex, and habits that build up over years together often matter just as much.
I created the Bold Intimacy Method™ from my work with clients and more than twenty years of tantra and embodiment practice. You can tell me anything. I’ve heard most of it before, and you won’t be judged.
Free for women
This five-minute quiz helps you see what may be getting in the way of your desire. Your results come straight to your inbox.
No. I’m a licensed pharmacist, but coaching isn’t diagnosis or treatment, and it doesn’t replace your doctor or therapist. If something you’re dealing with needs another professional, I’ll tell you, and I’m happy to work alongside them.
Yes. I work with people of all genders and orientations, and with monogamous, open, and polyamorous relationships.
Yes. Many people start on their own, and the changes you make in yourself often carry over into your relationship.
Yes. I treat what you share with care and discretion, and we’ll talk through confidentiality and its limits before we begin.
A Desire Discovery Call is free and private. We’ll talk about what’s going on, what you’d like to be different, and whether working together makes sense for you.